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IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A SEX SLAVE OR HOUSEKEEPER, STAY AT HOME. You really set yourself up for major disappointment with this attitude, and muddy the waters for the sincere caring men who come behind you. Most these foreign ladies are wonderful, loving, honest, hardworking women, who want nothing more than a better life and a healthy balanced relationship with a good man who will treat them with respect. They can stay in their own country work themselves to death and have a miserable one sided relationship with a selfish chauvinistic man. So why should they give up their homeland and family and move to a strange country with a man who is going to treat them poorly?

KNOW WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER A WOMAN, before you ever get on the plane. Look in the mirror and be honest with yourself. If you are looking for a model to dangle on your arm like jewelry then, go buy some jewelry. Marrying a sexy young princess half your age and bringing her home is fairly easy. Keeping her attention through the years is not. Get real and stay focused.

TAKE YOUR TIME. If you can only afford one trip overseas then spend at least a year preparing. Write lots of letters and develop some relationships before you go. When you get there spend as much time as you can with as many women as possible to get a feel for the culture and the character of the ladies. Then slowly zero in on the woman you think would make a good lifetime partner and friend and spend lots of time with her. Be prepared to stay a few extra days, or weeks, to develop the relationship.

DON'T FALL IN LOVE BEFORE YOU MEET HER. This is probably the most common mistake guys make. Because they don't really know who this woman is they begin to imagine she is everything they want. Of course many of tour companies fuel this misconception by leading you to believe all these ladies are perfect little Suzie homemakers. Ten years worth of letters and phone calls can not replace the first ten minutes face to face. If the magic isn't there from the beginning then it probably never will be. Always leave your options open until you hold her hand and look in her eyes.

CHOOSE A GOOD REPUTABLE TOUR COMPANY. A bad tour company can really ruin your trip, and a good one is well worth the extra money. Still you really need to check them out before you make any payments. I don't suggest you try to go it alone the first time for several reasons. First of all navigating through a strange country or city where you don't understand the culture or the language can cause unnecessary problems and frustrations and really eat up your time. Secondly it's good to travel with some other men, to have someone from your own country to talk to and double date to help you stay focused and grounded. When you are alone it's very easy to fall in love with the first girl who comes along.

HAVE FUN. Falling in love should be fun. Too many times I've gone overseas on tours with guys who seemed to be on a mission. "Stealth Bachelors" is what I call them. With calculators and note pads in hand they try to approach the highly unpredictable task of finding a wife as if they were buying a car, hiring a secretary, or choosing a bottle of wine. Too often they try to eliminate the most important part of the equation; What is the woman thinking and feeling? More often than not these guys go home disappointed, or worse they pick the wrong girl.

BE HONEST AND REALISTIC With yourself and with her. In a strange country, surrounded by lovely young women giving you lots of attention, it's very easy to get off track, fall in love with the wrong girl, or fall in love with all of them. There is almost always a huge difference between a girl would like to date for awhile, and one you would like to marry. Don't feel like you have to make a decision just because you are there. Believe me if she is the right girl, you will know it, and if she feels the same way, then nothing can keep you apart.

IT'S A NUMBERS GAME. Fortunately for once in this game the numbers are in your favor. Don't ever lose track of this one simple rule. A dating game is a dating game no matter which country you go to. Murphy's law still applies. What ever can happen will happen and probably as the worst possible time. You can spend your whole trip with one woman think it's a done deal and she'll dump you the day before you leave, or the day after you leave. Be sincere but don't wear your heart on your sleeve.

IT AIN'T OVER TILL IT'S OVER. Just because she says "YES" doesn't mean she will follow through and come to visit you. These are still women and they can still change their mind anytime they want. If you've met the right girl, and decided to file for a visa, which is the only way she can come to see you, you must be prepared to reinforce the relationship on a daily or at the very least weekly basis. Especially once you leave her to come back home.

LOVE HER. Your job is not over just because she gets her visa and appears on your doorstep. Most of these women, especially Russian gals, are addicted to romance. Contrary to popular belief most of them are much more interested in romance than money. Don't spoil her, but give her all you have to give and she will be your friend and partner for life.

Hello, my name is Tony Bochene. I am the founder of Marriageservices.org. I also operate a website called foreignbrideguide.com. Both these sites are excellent sources of unbiased information about how this process really works. Why am I qualified to offer you this information? For the past twenty years I have been directly involved with what was originally termed "mail order brides" and is now more respectfully referred to as international romance. To hear more about my personal success story visit www.foreignbrideguide.com.
Twenty years ago when I first began my journey overseas to find a woman there were no organized tours, no free information on the internet, and no agency such as this to offer guidance for the lonely man in search of true love. Trust me I made more than my share of mistakes and spent at least three times as much as I should have, which is why I've developed these sites. Still in the end I finally found my true love. For me, and thousands of other lonely men around the globe, it worked! The same can happen for you if you start out with a plan, follow a few simple rules that apply to any "dating game", keep your eyes wide open, and don't empty your bank account for a woman you've never met just because she says a few magic words.
I'm pleased to see that you are taking this venture seriously and moving forward with caution. Both these sites are designed to help you avoid the most common mistakes men make when searching for love overseas.